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What We Should Tell Our Daughters About This Story

If you ask me, it doesn’t matter whether you believe Christine Blasey Ford or Brett Kavanaugh. It doesn’t matter if you are Democrat or Republican. What does matter is that you are honest about the heart of this case when your teenage daughter says, “Hey mom… what’s that all about?”

This is the perfect opportunity to talk to her about sexual assault. Think about it. As a parent, you are the only person who will have this conversation with your child. This one talk could prepare her to better defend herself if she is ever in a situation where she is at risk. What’s more? This conversation might help her come to you if she is ever assaulted or raped. This simple talk could prevent years or decades of silence and the mental torture that comes with.

Here’s what I want my daughter to know:

 

  • No one touches you without consent. Ever! Not a friend, not a boyfriend, no one.
  • It’s possible you will come across a person in your high school or college years who will try to touch you without consent.
  • If you are touched without consent, assaulted or worse, it is NEVER your fault.
  • Come to me or any adult you trust. We will support you and help you. Do not keep this a secret.
  • Trust your gut. If you find yourself in a situation that doesn’t seem right, get out.
  • When someone violates you or sexually assaults you, that is a crime.

I have a son too. You can bet I will have this EXACT SAME conversation with him. I will also talk to him about respecting women and all people. That’s a message we try to convey to both our children every day of our lives, whether it’s respecting someone’s toys, space or body. It’s an ongoing conversation and one I’ve come to realize in the past few weeks we all need to have with our children.